Love Languages


As new parents, I often worry about my relationship with Brandon.  We are consumed with Henry, especially because it's just us out here in Pennsylvania.  We don't have the options to drop Henry at Grandma's for a few hours so we can go out to dinner or see a movie.  Doing things like that takes quite a bit more planning.  And because of that, I'm always thinking about connecting with him on a husband and wife level, not just as parents.

Recently we took the Love Languages quiz.  This quiz will help you understand how your significant other feels love, what is most meaningful to them.  The five love languages are: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch.    I was surprised when Brandon and I took the quiz because we both ended up with the same score- we both feel love by Words of Affirmation.  This basically means that we feel most appreciated and loved through words- whether that's compliments, being gracious, or saying things like "I appreciate you".

I thought it was important to learn this about each other at this point in our relationship because our time as a couple is so limited.  But knowing how he perceives love allows me to make sure he knows how much I appreciate all that he does for me (and Henry).  And the same for him.  My second highest score was for Physical Touch.  Absentmindedly grabbing my hand while we're out walking, giving me a hug after work, or kissing my forehead before he leaves for work every day, these are all things that also make me feel loved.  And now he knows how much those things mean to me.

By the way- his second highest score was Acts of Service- so I guess maybe I need to start cleaning the bathroom?

If you and your significant other haven't ever taken the Love Languages quiz, I definitely recommend it.  At the very least, you'll get insight into your partner.  And at the most, you'll be able to see a real shift in how you relate to one another.

Have any of you taken the quiz?  Did it help you connect with your partner?