Fall In Love With Me

By now you may have heard about the study by Arthur Aron on how to fall in love with anyone. The study explores whether answering 36 specific questions can accelerate the intimacy between two strangers. Now, last week when I decided to open up and admit a bunch of things to you guys, one of my favorite bloggers - Hallie of Corals and Cognacs - happened to be posting about this study. In her post, she answered some of these questions about herself in order to allow her readers to get to know more about her. And then she challenged those of reading to do the same thing. So that's what I'm here doing. I figure if you already know all of those things about me, you might as well know some of these things, too. (Some of the questions I edited slightly to make blog appropriate.)

Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

My first thought was my husband because these days there isn't much I cherish more than a dinner date out with my husband. The other is Robin Williams. If you know me personally, I've always called him my "Dad" because him and my father looked so strikingly similar in years past. But after Robin Williams' death, I've become even more intrigued by this person that we all just knew as a comedian. There was so, so much more to him and I'd love to hear about who he was outside of the comedy world.

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

Only in the way that would make me well known for my passions (writing and designing). I don't want to be on red carpets, or doing photo shoots. I don't want my life story splashed amongst the tabloids.

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

Occasionally I'll rehearse a bit in my head just so I remember to include everything I want to say. Other times I'll have a little cheat sheet in front of me to remind myself of points I'd like to make.

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

Waking up late, having a big breakfast with my boys. Then we'd get dressed and head to Pittsburgh for a day of sight seeing and walking around. We'd come home, put Henry to bed, and B and I would snuggle up on the couch with a big bowl of popcorn and watch a movie we'd been dying to see. No doubt, we'd still be in bed by 11:00 at the latest.

When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

I sing constantly in the car- and since Henry is often in there with me, does that count as singing to someone else? He will be well versed in 90's rap as he gets older.

Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

We have the same sense of humor (which is good because it's often "wrong"), we value a lot of the same things in life (family being top priority) and we are both very independent.

For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

Brandon and Henry, hands down. But also my relationship with my family, and my close friends. I'm grateful for having a job I enjoy, a side hobby to come to (this here blog), and the ability to own our own house.

If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Not a damn thing. Completely to my mom's credit, I had an amazing childhood. My dad wasn't around, and we weren't exactly the richest, but neither I nor my brother ever knew that. We were SO loved and I can't even begin to tell you the fun that we had- the kind of fun that I can't wait to have with my son someday.

Take four <sentences>and tell your <readers> your life story in as much detail as possible.

I grew up in Toledo, OH and was raised with my brother by a single mom. I graduated high school in 2001 and began my life of moving from city to city trying to find one that "fit". After dating my high school boyfriend for ten years, we broke up and soon after I found Brandon. Once we moved to our current city, I worked my ass off to get my blog to a point where I was able to use it to find a new job. And then we had Henry and nothing before that seems to matter. (That was five sentences, but whatever.)

If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Patience. I believe my lack of patience is my biggest flaw.

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

I've dreamed, since I was young, of working for a magazine. Now that I'm older, I dream of running my own online magazine. Let's just say that on my "to-do" list for the year is to start doing the research to make this happen.

What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

Becoming a mother. I know it's cliché, but it's incredibly true. I'm also pretty proud of my Master's degree.

What do you value most in a friendship?

Someone I can both laugh with and cry with. And who sees through my faults and loves me anyway.

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

I would quit working and travel with my boys. I want to see the world, and of course having to work kind of gets in the way of all of the travel plans.

What roles do love and affection play in your life?

Love is HUGELY important in my life. I love to love and I love to be loved. I am also extremely affectionate- with some people. I have this thing where I don't really like to be touched, except by a handful of people. But I'm constantly showing my affection in other ways.

How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?

My family isn't as close as I sometimes wish we were. When I began dating Brandon, I was sad that my family wasn't as close as his is- and sometimes that is still hard for me. However, in the past few years, my four siblings and I have all become MUCH closer and I cannot begin to tell you how amazing that feels. My childhood was amazing. I'm not sure if it was happier than most, but I was definitely really freaking happy.

How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

My mother is my best friend. No ifs, ands, or buts. We've always been close but as I grew up, we have grown into having a friendship AND a mother/daughter relationship. We talk multiple times per day, and she's always the first person I call when I have news (good or bad).

When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

I cry constantly these days. Anytime I watch Parenthood, I'm just a mess. (Whyyyyyy is it ending?!?!) I'm not sure when I last cried in front of someone, but I would bet it was probably in front of Brandon since I don't often cry in front of other people.

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

I don't think I'd have any regrets. I usually tell people how I feel. But I would always wonder if I told them ENOUGH. I don't know if I can ever say enough "thank yous" or "I love yous".

Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

Most likely my computer because it has all my photos saved on it and those are incredibly important to me.

Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

My mother. As I mentioned above, she is my best friend. To lose her would completely unravel me. So let's just stop talking about it now.