Confession: I'm An Introvert


I'm currently reading Quiet: The Power of Introverts In a World That Won't Stop Talking after having a hunch that I might, in fact, be an introvert. Reading that book fully confirmed my suspicions. I started out believing that I was somewhere between an introvert and extrovert (an ambivert, if you will- and yes, that's a thing). But after taking a simple survey at the beginning of the book, I realized that there is no middle ground for me. The book listed several situations that I had to say true or false to. The more "trues", the more of an introvert. I only answered false to 3 or 4 scenarios. You can see the ones I answered true to below:

+ Prefer one-on-one conversations to group activities
+ Often prefer to express myself in writing (This is why I have a blog)
+ Enjoy solitude
+ Dislike small talk, but I enjoy talking in depth about topics that matter to me
+ People tell me that I'm a good listener (I play the role of therapist to several friends quite frequently)
+ Enjoy work that allows me to "dive in" with few interruptions
+ People describe me as "soft spoken" or "mellow"
+ Prefer not to show or discuss my work with others until it's finished (No one knew I had a blog until I really started getting into it)
+ Dislike conflict
+ Do my best work on my own (I very much prefer to work on my own rather than in teams)
+ Tend to think before I speak
+ I feel drained after being out and about, even if I've enjoyed myself (I never recognized this as being an introvert trait, but it's EXACTLY how I feel every time I go out)
+ I often let calls go to voice mail
+ If I had to choose, I'd prefer a weekend with absolutely nothing to do to one with too many things scheduled
+ In classroom situations, I prefer lectures to seminars (I'm the person who will know the answer and refuse to raise her hand because she's too scared to speak up in front of a large group)
+ I'm more apt than average to feel pleasantly overwhelmed by positive experiences, or sickened by violence and ugliness (I've sat and cried often over things that make me happy and things that make me sad)
+ Called shy as a child (Apparently this was a bit of a problem)
+ Nervous when being evaluated

I'm not sure why, but realizing that I'm an introvert surprised me. I always knew I wasn't quite as outgoing as others and that I can be uncomfortable in social situations, but I figured I was still more an extrovert. When talking to my mom about this, I realized that I kept saying "if I'm forced to" socialize, or "if I'm forced to" speak up, or "if I'm forced to" present in public. I'd much rather sit quietly in the back of the room and talk to one or two others. Thinking about networking gives me hives. I'd much rather work by myself than on a team. And if I had to choose a social situation versus being at home, I'll almost always choose being home.  It seems though that some people are surprised that I'm an introvert- my husband included.  I can be very outgoing when I need to.  But if I think about it, it's when I'm with a group of people I'm comfortable with.  I can be loud and fun and funny (at least, I think I am).  But if there are people I don't know, I instantly become much more reserved.

I'm curious- how many more introverts are out there?  Do you consider yourself an introvert?

In This Post: Photo By: Volkan Olmez