Does This Make Me A Bad Mother?


Every night, Henry falls asleep on Brandon or I.  Each time he takes a nap at home, he falls asleep on one of us.  That's just how we do things, and it's how we've always done things.  Does that make me a bad mother?

Recently when I dropped him off at daycare, I was talking to one of the women that primarily takes care of him during the day.  I asked if he falls right to sleep for them when it's nap time.  She said he does, sometimes needing a quick pat on the back first.  I mentioned that he falls asleep laying on one of us every day and she gave me The Look.  You know the one- the raised eyebrow, questioning glance.  It made me stop and think- are we doing something wrong?  Are we setting him up for a life of needing to be held?

And then I realized, I don't care.  We let him fall asleep like this because we like it, and so does he.  It's comforting to all of us involved.  I highly doubt that when he's 25 he's going to need to fall asleep on someone's chest.  And since he's able to fall asleep at daycare without laying on someone, I'd say we're in the safe zone.  So in the meantime, I'm going to soak up all of this cuddliness and enjoy that he still wants to do this.  I know that our time of this will end much sooner than I like, so for now, I'm going to keep doing what I'm doing.

Is there something that you do as a parent that you "shouldn't"?